HOW TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR PREGNANT Woman AND UNBORN BABY
Vester Royal
Foundation is a tax exempt nonprofit organization that was established in 2013
to provide information support and financial assistance to help needy pregnant
women overcome death during child birth and child mortality. The foundation was
named after founder’s (Shedrack) father, Sylvester. Sylvester cared and
delivered many pregnant women and children. He saved his sister Patricia and
her child from hands of death during pregnancy, making her to deliver her
child safely at that point. Sylvester started the Foundation to provide a maternity/hospital
bills of some women within his family, and to support other families who were still unable to pay
their maternity/hospital bills. Another important focus of the Foundation was to provide
financial support that would assist needy infertile families with costs of
domestic fertility treatment. To date, Vester Foundation has
hosted hundreds of outreach events throughout Nigeria and provided 39
families with financial support nationwide.
This page celebrates the organizations that have gone above and beyond to partner with the Vester Foundation- hosting large fundraising events, mobilizing large numbers of volunteers and helping us support families overcoming women death at pregnancy and child mortality. We appreciate everyone’s help and give special thanks to those who are will to come up with something meaningful:
Partnerships of Purpose
We convene businesses, governments,
NGOs, and individuals to improve global
health and wellness, increase opportunity for women and girls, reduce childhood
obesity, create economic opportunity and growth, and help communities
address the effects of climate change.
In this jet age, it’s easy to forget
that there are major differences between the man and woman. Until your wife becomes pregnant. Then the difference between the sexes will appear like a great chasm
before you, when your wife becomes
pregnant growing a baby inside of her, you will be left to watch
from the outside; after you must have
made your contributions as a man of the house; your role in the baby-making
miracle is complete.
Immediately your biological
contribution might be over, if you’re like me, you’ll still want to be part of
the pregnancy process.
Being a pregnant wife is tough.
Seeing what Rosy went through to bring my progeny into the world certainly gave
me a greater appreciation for her and for womankind in general. As a man I
wanted to be there for Rosy as much as possible while she cooked the Gus bun in
her oven. I wanted her to be as happy and comfortable as possible, and I wanted
to do whatever I could to help our little kiddo come out kicking and screaming
like a champ.
A lot of guys find the pregnancy
process a little bewildering. Not knowing what to do, they end up nervously
backing away instead of stepping up the support when their women need them the
most. So I decided to start a series for dads-to-be to discuss the ins and outs
of this very cool but nerve-racking period in your life. Today, we’ll talk
about how to take care of your pregnant wife. Then we’ll talk about how to get
ready for the new arrival to come home, how to deliver the baby in an emergency (you never know!), and
how to be an awesome coach during the birthing process.
How
to Take Care of a Pregnant Wife and unborn baby.
Be happy to the news that, your wife
is pregnant. If you weren’t planning on the
arrival of a bundle of joy, make sure you don’t respond in a way that shows
you’re not excited about the news. Inappropriate responses would include:
breaking down and crying tears of agony, making a face of disgust, or asking
why she wasn’t using her birth control. You want your wife to feel confident
and secure that you’ll be there for her during these trying nine months and
that you’re willing to step up and be a great dad.
Read some books on pregnant woman like
(“Pregnant Mother & Unborn Baby”). The more you know about what she’s going through, the
better equipped you are to empathize and know how to help. There are hundreds
of pregnancy books to choose from. Pregnant Mother &
Unborn Baby is a classic and guides you through
what your wife is experiencing during each step of her pregnancy. They have a
section dedicated just to dads that has a lot of useful information. It also
lays out the development of your baby throughout his/her incubation. I thought
it was kind of fun to check the book to see when Gus lost his
vestigial tail or his eyes moved from the sides of his head to the front
where they belong.
Accompany her to doctor’s
appointments. This serves three purposes. First and
most importantly, it shows your pregnant wife that you’re with her all the way
in the pregnancy. Second, you’ll know exactly what’s going on with her
pregnancy and will be better prepared to help her. Pay close attention to
what the doctor says at these visits. A woman’s memory takes a dive during
pregnancy and she may be nervous and excited, so your wife might rely on you to
remind her about which cheeses she’s not supposed to eat. Finally, seeing your
baby’s picture, even when it looks like an indistinguishable lump and hearing
its heartbeat will help create a fetus/father bond. Even if you’re really busy
at work or school, always make time for the doctor’s appointments.
Reduce her stress. Pregnancy is physically and emotionally demanding, so don’t
burden your pregnant wife with any unneeded pressure. Take on more of the
household chores so your wife can rest.
Help her sleep well. Sleeping will become a more and more uncomfortable as your
wife gets further along in her pregnancy. When women sleep on their back,
the baby’s weight puts pressure on their spine, back muscles, intestines, and
major blood vessels. All this can lead to pain, decreased circulation, and
consequently trouble falling asleep. On top of that, the baby could be
using your wife’s uterus as a punching bag right around bedtime. Try falling
asleep when you’re getting punched and kicked from the inside. (Gus was super-active
at nighttime when he was in the womb. Which didn’t make Rosy happy?)
There are a few things you can do to
help your pregnant wife get some shuteye.
- Get your wife a full body pillow. Pregnant woman are supposed to sleep on their side instead of on their back or stomach. A full body pillow makes side sleeping a bit more comfortable by helping support the back and cradling your wife’s belly.
- Backrubs right before bed.
- Herbal tea that relaxes the mind and body.
- Cuddling
- Sexy time.
Be patient. Pregnancy totally wreaks havoc on your wife’s hormones.
Some days she’ll feel fantastic, some days she’ll bite your head off as soon as
you open your mouth, and some days she’ll break down and cry for no reason at
all. Be patient and recognize that it’s the hormones. Also, be understanding
when it comes to your love life. Your wife’s sex drive will be all over the
place during her pregnancy: often plummeting in the first trimester, bouncing
back in the second and falling again in the third. Patience, friend, patience.
Handling frequent peeing. Pregnant women pee frequently. Very frequently. I’m
talking every 30 minutes they’re making a run for the bathroom. It’s kind of
funny, but put yourself in your wife’s shoes and you’ll see just how much of
an inconvenience it is. Imagine having to get up three times during a
movie or several times in the middle of the night just to take a leak. Two
things you can do to help your wife out in this area:
First, be understanding
and accommodating. Don’t roll your eyes or grumble under your breath when
your wife asks you to pull over into a gas station so she can go to the
bathroom.
Second, keep her path to the
bathroom clear so she doesn’t trip over anything during her night trips.
Installing a night light in the hallway can be really helpful as well.
Act like you’re pregnant. No, I don’t mean you need to put on one of
those ridiculous bodysuits that let men know what it feels like to be
pregnant. Nor am I encouraging wild mood swings and consuming ice cream
sprinkled with pickle juice. What I’m talking about here is adding or dropping
the same habits your wife has to add or drop because she’s pregnant. It’s a way
to show moral support and to help her follow doctor’s orders as closely as she
can. So when your wife has to give up alcohol and coffee become a teetotaler
too (or at least don’t imbibe in front of her). Exercise is incredibly
beneficial to mom and baby to be, so help her get in the habit by offering to
go for a walk or to the gym together.
Tell her she’s beautiful and that
you love her. Your wife will be undergoing some
serious body transformations during pregnancy. Reassure her that you think
she’s beautiful and that you love her immensely. Affirm your unwavering
dedication to her each and every day.
Help her through morning sickness. Morning sickness is quite possibly the worst part of
pregnancy (well, besides that whole labor thing). It strikes about 75 percent
of all pregnant women. Symptoms of morning sickness include headaches,
excessive sleepiness and of course feelings of nausea and sometimes vomiting.
Most women will start feeling the symptoms of morning sickness about a month
after conception, and it will typically last until the twelfth to fourteenth
week of pregnancy. Some women will experience morning sickness their entire
pregnancy.
Despite its name, morning sickness
doesn’t happen only in the morning. Most women experience the symptoms of
morning sickness all day long. When helping her through this rocky period, the
key is to keep experimenting with different remedies. Introduce new treatments
each day to see which work for her and which don’t. Be willing to make many
trips, sometimes late at night, in search of something else to ease her
troubles. Here are a few remedies that might do the trick:
- Vitamin B6 supplements. Studies have shown that vitamin B6 supplements can alleviate the symptoms of morning sickness.
- Seasickness bracelets. Seasickness bracelets are elastic bands with plastic bumps that apply pressure to points on the wrist. Supposedly this pressure can reduce the feelings of nausea.
- Ginger ale. The fuzziness of ginger ale or any other clear soda can help with nausea. And ginger has been shown to reduce the symptoms of morning sickness. So ginger ale is a winning combo. Most popular brands of ginger ale don’t have any real ginger in them; look for smaller, independent brands that still use the real McCoy.
- Crackers. The problem with morning sickness is that your wife will not feel like eating much, but an empty stomach will only make the feelings of nausea worse. Crackers are easy on the stomach and can stave off the nausea that starts in the morning. Have her eat some before she even gets out of bed.
- Ginger or peppermint tea. As with ginger, peppermint has been shown to help reduce the feelings of nausea associated with morning sickness.
- Be flexible. Some foods will be totally unappetizing to your wife one day, and the next it will be the only thing that appeals to her. Be flexible and give her whatever her stomach will keep down. Be willing to run out and buy whatever she craves.
- Be neat. Pregnant women become hypersensitive to smells. Even scents she once enjoyed can now start her stomach churning. So brush your teeth and shower daily, or she may not be able to stand having you around.
Comfort your wife in ever situation.
Pregnancy, especially for first time
moms, can be a little scary. Women wonder if the baby is doing okay, what labor
will be like, whether they’ll have to have a c-section, and whether they’ll be
good at being a mom. Be willing to let your wife vent or cry whenever they need
to, even if it’s in the middle of the night. If there’s something specific
that’s worrying your wife, do some research so you can confidently tell her,
“Those pains you’re experiencing are normal and do not mean you will give birth
to a two-headed hydra baby.”
For more details get our
e-book on “Pregnant Mother &
Unborn Baby” call 07088788710 or e-mail foundation@vestersms.com
Content
of the e-book “Pregnant Mother and Unborn Baby” includes: (1) The Normal Pregnancy
(2) Addiction (Coffee, Tea, Cola's) (3) Smoking, Drinking and Drugs (4) Cautions during
Pregnancy (5) Common Pregnancy Concerns (6) Weekly
development in the mother (7) Weight
(8) Importance of a Healthy Diet (9) Fitness Regime During Pregnancy
